How to change the way you think
Is there something about your mindset that you’d like to change?
Perhaps a fear is holding you back from expressing your thoughts publicly. Or your perfectionistic strivings are limiting you at times. Or you secretly don’t trust those around you with doing a good job.
How can you change the way you think? By acting mindfully into a new way of thinking.
A quote to keep in mind
“Adults are much more likely to act their way into a new way of thinking than to think their way into a new way of acting.”
– Richard Pascale, ‘Surfing the Edge of Chaos’
How to act your way into a new way of thinking
Don’t just act! Act mindfully. Acting in a haphazard and impulsive way will only strengthen your current way of thinking.
Let’s say that you’re constantly worried about giving constructive feedback to a team member. Here’s what acting mindfully might look like:
Step 1: Choose your ‘just manageable challenge’
Start experimenting with someone who you feel most comfortable with.
Step 2: Look inwards
- What am really I worried about?
- What’s at stake here that I care deeply about?
- What is it the outcome that I’d like to achieve?
Step 3: Prepare yourself
Write down the feedback, rehearse it and iterate on it.
Step 4: Carry out the ‘just manageable challenge’
Step 5: Make a record of it
Once you’ve done it, don’t erase the memory – capitalise on it:
- What went well and what could have gone better?
- What did I learn and how did it make me stronger?
- How do I view things differently now looking back?
Here’s a challenge for you this week 😉 – identify something in how you’re thinking that you’d like to change. Then plan an intention to act mindfully into a new way of thinking!